If you’ve ever had to take a parents or grandparent’s car keys away because they were a danger to themselves or others, you know how heartbreaking that can be. My dad had to do it with his dad and it broke his heart. The worst part was that my grandpa had just purchased a new car from a local Buick dealer a few weeks before this happened. But it’s your responsibility if a loved one is no longer able to drive with caution or if they are losing their eyesight. If you’re considering doing that now with a parent or if you think you may need to in the future, here are some suggestions to make the process less complicated.
Know the right time. When an older driver gets into an accident, it isn’t necessarily their fault. Everybody gets into an accident at one time or another so don’t automatically assume it’s the best time to take their keys away after one accident. Wait until there is a pattern of traffic violations or other small accidents before making your decision.
Know the health issues. The National Motorists Association states that most accidents involving senior citizens are caused by memory loss or disorientation. This could include health issues like Alzheimer’s and others. Generally, seniors tend to adjust their driving habits accordingly with other health issues, including cataracts or arthritis. Keep this in mind before taking their keys.
Research the possibilities. Is the car their only mode of transportation? Are there any busses or taxi companies in the area that can take them where they need to go? Can a member of the family take them to their appointments? If a car is their only option, you’ve got a tough decision to make.
Be gentle. It’s difficult for a parent to take advice or even demands from their children regardless of their age. But if you be gentle and explain the situation to them and how they could endanger lives, they may be more willing to give up those keys. Whatever you do, don’t make it into an angry confrontation. That will just make things worse.
